by September 29th, 2009. Filed under: teenage pregnancy.
Today I was on the bus and I saw a teenage mum (about 16/17) with her baby. She looked well-dressed and so did the baby (I only say this because I know what some people on here say about teenage mums) and when she got on the bus a middle aged woman (late forties) went past her when getting off the bus and said" you shoudl be ashamed of yourself having a baby so young" and got off the bus. The girl looked updset but as if she’s had all this before.
What I want to knwo is why are teenage mums treated in this way?
I know that not everyone feels this way towards them but some do and it upsets me.
She looked like a wonderful mum paying lots of attention to her baby and giggling along with her (again I only add this because of certain people’s views that all teenage mums are bad mums)
It really upset me to think that there are people so nasty out there. I’d hate to think that if I became pregnant (hope to god i don’t, 17 and on pill and condom) that I’d be treated like this.
Your opinions?
My views on it are that although I think ti is young, the girl is taking on alot of responsibility by taking on a child which is what they should do if they were prepared to have sex in the 1st place.
I don’t think anyone should feel against it as I’m sure teenagers are doing their best and alot better than some other mothers as they feel they have somethign to prove to the rest of society.
and to the person who said whore:
it only takes one missed pill or one split condom or even being on both and being that 1%.
I feel that girls should definitly not be planning to have kids at a young age under say 20 but if it does happen by mistake I have nothing against it, they are doing the mature thing by keeping the baby.
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It’s people like you that will grow up to be that woman.
Maybe that girl didn’t plan for her pregnancy and it was a mistake, she did the mature thing and kept the baby.
You don’t know her situation so how can you say any of that.
I hate the fact that there are all those bad teenage mums out there giving the good ones a bad name but the thing is there are bad mothers in their twenties and thirties so shouldn’t they be a bad name to older mothers?
No they aren’t portrayed like that because of the media. The media annoys me so much grrrr 
I didnt say anything because as soon as the woman said it she got off the bus. What was I meant to do?
Yes I disagree with 14 year olds having sex with strangers and sleeping around etc.
However this girl and many other teenage mums may have been in a long term relationship, on birth control or accidently missed it once, I know that this isn’t always the case but quite alot of the time it is except that adults say that we are irresponsible as teenagers so must not have been on birth control or shouldn’t be having sex.
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September 29th, 2009 at 12:45 pm
It’s shameful and this coming from an ADULT to a "CHILD".
People should treat other people with respect no matter what!!
Live and let live. IF I was that girl I would have told her Fu@k you mind your own business.
There are mature young mothers out there are are way better moms than older females.
People forget that in some cultures girls are married off at 12 or 13.
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September 29th, 2009 at 1:31 pm
There’s no excuse for ANYONE to say anything about her situation, especially to her face. She could be a better mum than anyone, but she still gets flack for being young.
I was brought up with parents telling me to only have kids in my 30s, so I was never one to want to get pregnant in my teens. I don’t have any bad feelings towards those that do have kids young though, and it’s not my place to judge them. The only reason I might resent people is if they are relying on the government to support them; but then again, it’s not just young mums that do that is it?
It’s probably harder for young mums because they aren’t adult themselves, yet they have to be mothers.
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September 29th, 2009 at 2:04 pm
generally thought of as irresponsible slags
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September 29th, 2009 at 2:43 pm
b/c ppl are ignorant. i can completely understand if she paid no attention to her child but she sounded like she was being a good mother, and that’s ALL THAT MATTERS!! NO MATTER WHAT AGE!
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September 29th, 2009 at 3:16 pm
I think it was rude of the woman to make a comment. Nobody has the right to comment on other peoples lifestyle choices, if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. If the young woman with the baby is happy and healthy then what has it got to do with anyone else, hopefully she will raise her child to be more polite and tolerant than the people she has experienced.
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September 29th, 2009 at 4:05 pm
dirty little whore
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September 29th, 2009 at 4:46 pm
It’s probably because the majority of teen mums are rude "chavs" that make their mum do all the hard world and they take all the glory. They give the good teen mums a bad name. Other people just assume the worst, and some people should just keep their effing mouths shut. I’m 21 but i still get funny looks from people like "you shouldn’t have a baby you should be doing this and that" and whatever else. argh
Yeh i agree with the older mums canbe bad mums too. I just think that people only notice when young girls arent doing a good job, when it’s older mums they think they know what they’re doing. It’s the whole stereotypical thing. Our minds just assume.
completely agree with what you’re saying
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September 29th, 2009 at 5:23 pm
It’s ridiculous, but just another symptom of how society in general looks down on all teenagers. 50+yrs ago it would have been normal.
It really annoys me that people can assume that just because someone is under 20 they must be irresponsible, a bad mum, probably a drunk and maybe threatening to old people. And a thief. Maybe a crack addict too. The list is pretty much endless.
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September 29th, 2009 at 5:31 pm
It’s because people are ignorant, and some think that just because a girl is young and unwed with a baby, it makes her a bad person, or a bad mother. It’s horribly wrong for people to treat teenage moms like this, they don’t deserve to be treated that way, they do so much for their babies, and it’s hard for them because of their age, people should respect them and try to see how hard they’re working to keep their babies happy and healthy and taken care of. I’m 17 and I just found out that I’m pregnant, and I know that I sure don’t wanna be treated that way after I have my baby.
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September 29th, 2009 at 6:02 pm
Miserable people have nothing better to do than try to make others miserable. Being a teen aged mom is by no means a good idea to plan, but doesn’t mean life is over or that you will be a bad mom. Girls should wait until at least marriage until having children or until they have careers that can support them and the child. But, when things happen you must continue to live, and in the best quality as possible. There are teen girls who are wonderful mothers. It is just sad that they lose so much of their own childhood. I had my first child at 20 and I still sometimes think I should have waited. I would never give him up, not for anything, but at the same time there are things I will never be able to do again. The most important thing to remember is, be the best mom you can, no one I don’t care how old is equipped better than anyone at knowing what having a child actually means. Keep being a kind person and caring for others!
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September 29th, 2009 at 6:50 pm
That’s horrible. Karma’s a b**** though and that woman will get what she deserves. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger right? Some people are so old school and set on their ways that they don’t realize that civilization has upgraded since the 1808 and you can’t just say these things (without possibly getting shot ha). Maybe that woman had her panties in a bunch, but she still had no right to say that. I think another reason why people can be so rude to pregnant teen moms and teen moms is because of the stereotype of teen mothers in general. The media influences a lot of it though - look at how many lifetime movies are based on real stories of teenagers having babies?
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September 29th, 2009 at 7:40 pm
Personally, I think that unless you can support yourself and a baby, then you have no business having a child. Mom & baby were probably well dressed because grand parents are paying the bills. It is easy to play with baby when you have someone else to take care of everything for you.
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September 29th, 2009 at 7:57 pm
i have no problem with teenage pregnancy, with in reason, infact i was mistakenly got at because my i took out my little brothers one day, theres 13 years difference between us and i was 15 at the time, i was going though my local town with my dad and he went off to get something so i was left with my little bros and this woman said pretty much the same thing, so i told her they were my little brothers, just so happened to be a bit of a difference!
aged 16-17 and to have a child isnt bad, i mean years ago girls were married off as soon as they had their first period and were giving birth not long after, people just need to be open minded, you never know, it may not have been her fault, how did this woman not know that she was raped or anything, and if shes 16plus then sod that woman she was legal and all, and if it was by choice, she obviously felt it was right…
i’m open minded and all, so yeah, i dont have a problem with it, but thats probably cos i’m quite young too, but then again i wouldnt act like that woman did when i’m older
BTW BUTTERFLY and anyone else who thinks this,
MOST teenagers are NOT having sex at 14-16, i grew up in a rough neighbourhood, but no, i wasnt having sex, i have been in a relationship for 2 years now only ever been with him and we live together now, i’m 19 btw, all of my mates didnt loose there virginity until they were at LEAST 16 *note the legal age for UK* and didnt get pregnant, i think you need to stop watching these media reports saying most teenagers have sex or get pregnant, and you really need to check out your facts before you insult the majority of teens!! its rude and also not true, and you like the media needs to f***ing sorted out, theres a large amount of teens who are considerate and not out shagging, thank you very much!
get your facts right you rude closed minded person/people!
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September 29th, 2009 at 8:12 pm
I think sadly the reason is that there are a lot of young girls see a baby as a meal ticket. Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying every young Mum does this but it’s hard to escape press reports of young women getting pregnant in order to secure housing and welfare benefits. I don’t think we should blame everything on these young women - as many of them are still children when they make such a decision. We need to stop offering so many incentives to people not to work and to use children as a way to shirk contributing to society.
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September 29th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
Well i’m 17 and pregnant, i’ll be 18 when my baby is born though.
I’m in a good relationship, have been for 4 years, we weren’t trying for a baby but we weren’t exactly preventing it either. I have good grades and i have a good payed job. I have a home and have done since i was 16. I have brilliant family and friends to support me and i’ve got savings in an account, been saving up for years for a rainy day and it’s came in handy now.
I know loads of people who’ve had kids at 15 and 16, they were not in my situation and sponge of the government and don’t look after their kids, i think that’s bad, but i’m being responsible and dealing with this, i’m not gonna go out every weekend and get bladdered when my baby is here, i’ll be looking after it all the time and i’ll be the best mother i can be!
People are just too shallow minded these days, it’s sad.
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September 29th, 2009 at 9:06 pm
Some people are asses.
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September 29th, 2009 at 9:20 pm
Ahhhh, I would love to know the same dang question. I am 17 & have a 3 month old baby girl. I get dirty looks all the time & some people don’t even believe that she’s mine. Well, she is & I went through alot to just have her. Some older people think that teens are just not fit to be mothers. They just ain’t financially, emotionally or physically ready to have a baby. I think they just need to mind there damn p’s & q’s. =]
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17 yr. old mommy to a beautiful baby girl =]
September 29th, 2009 at 10:08 pm
Most teenagers shouldnt be having sex at 14, 15 or 16..They should be in school focusing on school stuff and family. Not having sex. Its not right. And most teenage girls who get pregnant are not on birth control, they have wreckless irresponsible unprotected sex that ofcourse will lead to a teenage pregnancy.
And the problem is that the poor grandparents end up raising the child. Cause the men who get these girls pregnant want nothing to do with them or with the baby those girls are pregnant with, so the poor grandparents have to finish raising their teenager daughter and also have the burden of having to raise physically and financially their daughter´s child cause there´s no way a 15 yr old can physially and financially support 100% a child, she cant even support herself, let alone another human being.
And whats so hard to wait to have sex? There are a lot of pregnant 14 and 15 yr olds. Girls never learn from other girls mistakes. At that age I was still a virgin and hadnt even kissed a boy yet. While most of America´s teens are already mothers. Its not normal by any means that a child would have another child. This teenage pregnancy thing affects society in general cause there are other teenage girls who think having sex and getting pregnant is ok so they end up doing it too.
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September 29th, 2009 at 10:38 pm
How quickly some forget that not long ago, 18yo and unmarried with no kids was an old maid……
The female body is best suited for child birth from ages 16 - 25. Notice how more and more women wait, and have troubles, and children with disorders……society needs to wake up…. Man cannot overcome the laws of nature with his pills for everything……
I feel bad for that yong lady. And anger for you! Why didn’t you say something if it bothered you? That’s one problem…..political correctness….
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September 29th, 2009 at 11:09 pm
I am the mother of two daughters who became pregnant one at 17 the other at 20, [they both got pregnant the same weekend] I was horrified at first but soon got used to the idea that I was to become a grandmother twice over. I was sum what set back by the reactions of some of my work colleagues and friends though. I actually had one person say to me "didn’t you teach you girls the facts of life", and another said "cant you control your children". Well yes I did teach my girls the facts of life, and no I cant control my "children" because at their ages I didn’t consider them children anymore. My mothers reaction was the best though, at 78 years old I was dreading telling her, but I shouldn’t have, she said "Oh how wonder full Im going to be a great grandmother again, another 2 to add to the brood". Now 20 years on all 5 of my grandchildren are doing well. I hope that young mother on the bus has the love and support of her family the way my girls had and never mind what other people think
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September 29th, 2009 at 11:43 pm
WHen I was 19 and Married I got looks because I looked young and people assumed that I was not married. I had a nurse try to tell my husband that he was not allowed in the delivery room… I was soo angry because she assumed we were not married since we were young looking. WHo knows how old she realy was, and who knows her situation.
I do look down upon extremely young like 13-16.
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September 30th, 2009 at 12:33 am
I don’t think it’s a good idea to TRY to get pregnant in your teens, you end up losing a lot of your own childhood. However, if it happens by accident you should do the responsible thing and keep the baby. That woman had no right to say things like that, it sounded like she was doing her best to take care of her baby.
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September 30th, 2009 at 12:59 am
Hello dear,
Really So nice Question please. I will definitely answer you in detail of your nice question but little latter because some guests came here in my house. So It’s request to you please don’t put this question for Voting before I add detail.
Hope! have a nice day and nice dream
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